Customer or Worker?

Ever felt like leaving your church? Of course you have. Nearly all of us have left a church at one time or another. Statistically, most churches who do experience growth do so because of new people transferring from other churches. Statistics also tell us that the number one reason that people leave churches is because of the leadership. Poor leadership is a valid reason to leave a leaving-church1church in some cases. If you’ve been around the church scene for any length of time you’ve recognized a swindler or someone who twists the scriptures to teach something that God never intended to say. You may have been part of a church that was all about the pastor. It happens. You may see decisions made about the general direction of the church that you don’t agree with. You may say things like  “They should prioritize evangelism and they just don’t do it. We should have more praise songs and celebrate what God has done. We should do more worship because that what God really wants.” We all have our ideas about how church should be done, what should and shouldn’t happen and even how to make those things happen. Before you write off the leadership of your church and/or decide to leave, ask yourself a couple of questions:1. If the church changed to suit the picture I have in mind, would it still fulfill its purpose?
2. Am I a customer at my church or am I part of the work force?

If the purpose of your particular church is to reach the lost, and the church changed to fit the model that you have in mind for your church, would it still reach lost people? If the mission of your church is to disciple believers and help them grow closer to Christ, would your church still fulfill that mission if it changed the things that you think need to be changed? Often, we project our own ways of thinking onto others. We all do it. The church universal exists to reach lost people and disciple them. After all, that’s the Great Commission. Go and make disciples of all nations…  teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. However, the mission of your local church may be more specific than that. Paul said that some people planted, some watered and some reaped the harvest. He also said that different people have different gifts and even used the analogy of the different parts of the body to describe how people could work together to accomplish a common goal, but not all do the same thing. As I’ve said before, unity does not equal unison. Different people have different purposes in the body of Christ. Different churches have different responsibilities as well. Some plant (think Seeker-Sensitive), some water (think discipling) and some reap the harvest (think evangelical). All churches, regardless of their particular mission should be reaping a harvest of some kind. That harvest may be new believers as they reach the lost, or it may be a harvest of maturing believers as they disciple other Christians. Now, you may think that your church exists to reach lost people. Therefore, in your church, which places an emphasis on discipleship, things need to be done differently. At least in your (humble) opinion. Of course, the opposite is true as well. You may think that the primary goal of any church should be to disciple Christians and help them to become better Christians. That should be a goal of every church, but some churches may place an emphasis on actually reaching lost people and not so much on discipling growing Christians.

Now serving number one sign.  Isolated on white.People complain about the direction of the church, yet when the church is working to accomplish their mission, some of those same folks then choose to leave the church because the church isn’t feeding them. It seems they want the church to treat them as customers. We live in a consumer-driven society. We don’t go to the mall to fill our basic needs. We go to the mall to fulfill our consumer-driven mentality. Over time, this mentality has crept into the church culture as well, so that we now have quite a few Christians who are consumer-minded individuals. They don’t look at the big picture in terms of the mission of the church. They look at what’s in it for them. What am I getting out of going to this church in particular, or even the church in general? They think that the church should put the needs of its members first. This is described in church-growth circles as “inward thinking” and is actually one of the signs of a church’s decline. As a church ages, it can begin to lose sight of those outside the church and begin to only meet the needs of those inside the church. It becomes a closed organism that eventually dies. These people have missed one of the major points of Christianity. For the church to be healthy, church members should be part of the workforce, not the customers. The customers of the church are people who need Jesus. Once they become a Christian, the process of growing from a customer to a worker begins.

If the reason you don’t feel like you’re growing is because the church is not feeding you, then you need to step in and help. Join or start a small group or class that will go deeper in the study of the Bible. You are not to be a spectator, you are to be a stakeholder. You are not there to be served, you are to be a servant. You need a place where you grow by serving and supporting the vision to reach your community for Christ.

QBQ is a book by John Miller that talks about personal responsibility. One of the statements that he makes in his book is Believe or Leave. If you can’t support the vision of the corporation or department that you are a part of, then you need to look for another job. The same is true of a church. If you can’t be part of the team, do your church, the Lord and your pastor a favor and find somewhere else to attend. However, just like at your place of employment, the opposite is true as well. You are not treated as a customer while on the job. You are a part of the workforce. If you consider yourself a member of your church, you will not be treated as a customer. You are a member of the workforce. Instead of griping about what your church isn’t doing, why not get in there and help it do what it is doing? Are you a customer, or a part of the workforce?

Timing is Everything

I received a call from my newly licensed daughter this week. “Dad. Someone just hit me.” I’m not one who is easily panicked, but I have to admit that my heart jumped just a little. My grandchildren were in the car with her. After determining that everyone was alright physically, I asked her what happened. “I was sitting at a stop light waiting to make a left turn. The guy at the light coming straight through just sat there when the light turned green, then he waved me through to make my turn. After I had turned, he came on through the intersection and hit me.” It sounded a little suspicious to me until her story was corroborated by another driver.

car-accidentThe old adage is true – “Timing is everything.” Another 3 seconds or so and the other driver would not have hit her. Had he moved 20 seconds earlier, she would not have turned through the intersection until he was past. The same is true for us, even when we’re following God’s instructions. I’ve had friends who were told by traveling prophets that they would be great ____________ (fill in the blank) who immediately started rearranging things in their world so that God could use them in that area. It seems that when we hear from God, we get impatient sometimes to accomplish what we know we are to accomplish.

I speak from experience. I am not immune to this phenomenon. From the time I was very young, I sensed that God wanted me to do something. I remember praying in our small church week after week to determine what God wanted me to do. I remember discovering that God had called me to be a pastor, but after seeing what my father went through as a pastor for 30 years at that time, I wasn’t about to be the pastor of a church. In 1990, while my wife was out of the country on a missions trip, I began praying in earnest about God’s calling for my life. It was then that I distinctly heard God telling me that I was to go into music ministry. I can’t say that anyone else in the room would have heard His voice or not, but I did. So I did what any other successful business person would have done. I said “No way!” I was a salesman in the DC area at the time. Behind government, the printing industry is the second largest industry in the DC area. I sold printing. In fact, my sales made up 80% of the business in the company that I worked for and I had just landed a national account that would bring millions of dollars to the company and add many thousands of dollars to my salary. Why would I quit a successful career? I was volunteering in church at the time and was happy to continue to volunteer, but to go into full-time ministry? Not a chance. God-SignSo, like many great men before me, I asked for a sign. I said “OK God. If this IS God, you’re going to have to hit me over the head with a sign, because I’m not just quitting my job and going into ministry.” That was Wednesday. On Friday, I was called into my manager’s office and told that I was being laid off. Turns out, my national deal was enough to keep the company running three shifts for the next several years. The only downside for them was paying me the commission on the sale. So I was let go. OK God. You have my attention.

I approached the pastor of the church I was volunteering, where, it turns out, they were in need of a music minister. I explained my call from God, my circumstances and told him that I would like to be considered for the position. I was not hired. What was I supposed to do? God Himself had spoken to me and no one would listen. I would just do what He called me to do. So, like Abraham, who didn’t see the promise of an heir immediately, I took matters into my own hands and found a position at another church. Now, 20+ years later, I can see how moving my family over the next several years, placing a strain on my marriage and my family was probably not what God had in mind for me.

Jesus had the same issue, yet He handled it much differently than I did. In John 7 we find a story about Jesus and God’s timing. The feast of Tabernacles was approaching. According to the Jewish historian Josephus, this was the most popular of the three major Jewish feasts. Jesus’ brothers were going to Jerusalem for the festivities and wanted Jesus to come along. Of course, their motive was questionable. They said ” ‘Leave Galilee and go to Judea, so that your disciples there may see the works you do. No one who wants to become a public figure acts in secret. Since you are doing these things, show yourself to the world.’ For even his own brothers did not believe in him.” ~ John 7:3-5

The response by Jesus tells us a lot about Him. He said  “My time is not yet here; for you any time will do.” God’s timing was not right for Jesus to go to Jerusalem publicly. Why not? We may never know. Perhaps it was because the Jewish leaders were waiting for him. In verse 11 we read that they were watching for Him and asking about Him at the festival. But it’s Jesus’ dig at His brothers that catches my attention. “For you, any time will do.” He was saying “You don’t know the plan of God. You don’t know God’s perfect timing. You are all about you. For you, any time will do.” But by contrast, He said “You go to the festival. I am not going up to this festival because my time has not yet fully come.” Fully come. God’s timing was just as important to Jesus as His mission. Jesus knew what His mission on earth was. Could He have accomplished it by going to Jerusalem with His brothers? Maybe, but definitely not how God intended Him to. It would not have gone the way that God intended. It may have taken longer. It may not have impressed something in just one of the disciples that needed to be impressed.

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In verse 10 we read that Jesus did go to the festival, secretly, after His brothers had left. About halfway through the 7-day feast, Jesus started teaching publicly. God’s time for Him to do so had come. Jesus just had to wait for three days. What difference did three days make? Apparently it made a difference because Jesus would not go earlier because of God’s timetable. One thing is for sure, when Jesus finally did go to the festival, He made an impression. Throughout the rest of this chapter and into chapter 8 we read about the stir that Jesus caused by His appearance at the Feast of Tabernacles. He got things stirred up. Timing was everything.

Are you waiting for something? Has God placed something in you that you need to accomplish? I believe that we all are placed here to accomplish something. But we have to remember that timing is everything. For me, additional training and experience were necessary for me to accomplish what God intended. I thought I was ready. You may have heard it said that “Those whom God calls He equips.” That may be true, but He doesn’t always equip them overnight. For Jesus, it was a matter of about 3 days. Equipping sometimes takes years. Jesus knew that He had a mission to accomplish, yet He worked to accomplish it in God’s timing, not His own. May you fulfill your calling to build God’s kingdom in His timing. Don’t be one of those to whom Jesus would say “For you any time will do.” Seek God’s timing. If you sense God telling you to move on something now, move now – even if you don’t see everything in place. If you sense God telling you to do something, but don’t sense an urgency, wait for His perfect time to accomplish your mission. Remember, movement does not equal accomplishment. Don’t get frustrated or impatient, because God’s timing is always perfect, and He’s seldom early by our standards. In fact, I’ve found that He is usually last-minute by my standards. But not by His. His timing is perfect and you will not accomplish His perfect will unless your mission is not only accomplished, but accomplished by His timetable.

Unanswered Prayers

Have you ever been disappointed with God?  I think that if we’re honest with ourselves, nearly all of us would answer with a resounding “yes!” I know I have. I have even let Him know it sometimes (as if He didn’t already know) by verbalizing my disappointment. Some of us have experienced it differently than others. You may look around you at the injustice in the world and wonder how God could allow such things to happen. You may be one of those who looks at disasters and doesn’t understand how a God of love could allow innocent people to be harmed or even killed by random disasters. You may have lost a loved one after praying for healing. You may be one of the ones who was passed up for the promotion you deserved after praying and believing for God’s favor. There are many scenarios that I could mention, but most of us, if we have been Christians for any length of time, have questioned some of God’s actions, or inaction.

Even Job had his questions regarding God’s answering of prayers. He said ” I cry out to you, God, but you do not answer; I stand up, but you merely look at me.” (Job 30:20)

for_all_the_unanswered_prayers_by_jonathoncomfortreed-d411ni5Why is it that sometimes when we pray, we don’t get what we asked for? Does that negate Christianity or God’s word? As I’ve said before, we tend to justify God’s actions or inaction, as if He needed our justification. We justify not getting that promotion because God has something better for us. That loved one must have died because God needed them in Heaven, or their work here on earth was complete. My car must be broken down this morning because God was trying to save me from being in an accident. We tend to make excuses for God when He doesn’t come through like we think He should.

Why do our prayers seem to fall on deaf ears sometimes? I think it can be a matter of perspective. God loves us and does want the best for us, but sometimes we allow ourselves to get in our own way. God shows us favor in the smallest of things, but often doesn’t come through in what we perceive to be the big things. I think that it’s because we quite often have our priorities mixed up. What is important to us just isn’t all that important to God. See, God isn’t here to make us happy. He’s here to make us holy. When the reason that we want that promotion is because we want more stuff, it’s we who are concerned with the stuff, not God. God is concerned with our relationship with Him. God is concerned with how we are leading others into a relationship with Him. God is not always concerned with whether we drive a Lexus or a Chevy.

We have to keep in mind God’s purpose for mankind. The reason we are here is to be in a covenant relationship with God. The Bible says that when we become Christians, God adopts us into His family. We literally become adopted children of God. Those of us who have children know that we don’t often share priorities with our children. We don’t always understand the latest fashion craze or musical sensation that is so important to our children. It’s just not that important. It’s not that we don’t love our children, it’s that we are so busy trying to provide for them and help them realize their potential as adults that the latest CD by Wrong Direction doesn’t mean that much in the scheme of things.

prayer_cnThe same is true of God. He’s concerned with our spiritual growth and our relationship with Him. This is not another justification for why we don’t always get what we want. It’s found in the Bible. In talking about asking for things in life Jesus says in Matthew 6:33 to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things [that we pray for] will be added to you. It doesn’t say to seek these things first and God’s righteousness will be added to you. God is concerned with our development, not our enjoyment. Does God want us to be happy? I’m sure He does. Jesus said that He came to earth so that we might have life to the full (John 10:10). But that isn’t God’s primary purpose in redemption. His purpose is relationship. When we ask for things that would assist us in living in, or even being tempted by, sin, God will not answer. Psalm 66:18 says If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened; In other words, if I am continuing to allow sinful behavior in my life, my prayers will go unanswered. Just because it would make us happy (temporarily) does not mean that God is somehow obligated to indulge us in selfish prayers.

Getting our priorities straight is only one of the reasons that God may not have answered your particular prayer. This is not a catch-all discussion for unanswered prayer. It is simply an observation on one of the reasons God has not answered my prayers in the past. If we seek God first – put His priorities first – God will often answer those prayers. When He doesn’t, we must learn to trust.

Some additional reading can be found here:

Unanswered Prayer

God’s Perfect Timing

Buti na lang Moments

It’s All About Me

I once knew a lady who had tremendous faith. In fact, at one point she needed to move into a new house. I asked her if she had found one yet. She replied that she had not. When I asked her in what area she had been looking, she replied that she had not been looking at all. I said “I thought you had to be out of your house in two weeks?” She said that was correct. I asked her why she hadn’t been looking for a new place to live yet. Her reply: “I’m believing that God will send me a house. My faith is active on that. In fact, I’ve already packed all of my things and have it all by the front door so that when He opens the door, I’ll be ready to move in.”

labeling-boxes-for-movingHave you ever known someone like that? My next question to her was that if she had that kind of faith that God was going to drop a house in her lap why she didn’t have the faith to believe that He was going to pack her things and move them too. I don’t mean to sound demeaning, and I certainly don’t want to give the impression that God couldn’t have moved on her behalf and provided a house for her. I guess what stupefies me is the thought process that some have which creates a God that provides miracle after miracle without considering that He expects us to do some things for ourselves. I once knew of a man who didn’t believe that he had to work. God had promised in His Word that since He fed the birds and clothed the plants that he did not need to work to provide those things. God would provide them. He overlooked the scripture that addresses just that issue. 2 Thessalonians 3:10 says “If you don’t work, you don’t eat”. In other words, you have been given the means to provide for yourself and are expected to do so. That doesn’t mean that God has not promised to supply our needs if we are unable to provide for ourselves. It does mean that we are expected to do what we can with what we have.

I have known people who were put into a leadership position who were afraid to make decisions. They would pray about it and expect God to remove the lazy employee, or improve the performance of a poor employee or even to provide a good employee. What they didn’t realize is that God placed them in that position not so that He could do all of the work for them and make them look good, but so that they could do what He expected them to do and make God look good.

Consider the story of Joseph. This is a great example of how God works through us, and sometimes in spite of us. Joseph was a spoiled, fairly arrogant child by all accounts in the Bible. In fact, he was so annoying that his own brothers decided to sell him as a slave. In Egypt, he was purchased by a very prominent member of society. The Bible says that “The Lord was with Joseph so that he prospered, and he lived in the house of his Egyptian master.  When his master saw that the Lord was with him and that the Lord gave him success in everything he did Joseph found favor in his eyes and became his attendant.” ~Genesis 39:2-4. Notice that while it was God who did the blessing, it was Joseph who did the work. The Bible doesn’t just say that Joseph had success. It says that he had success in everything he did. Joseph worked. Joseph made decisions. Joseph did what he was supposed to do. He didn’t sit around and wait for God to do it for him. He allowed God to work through him. Eventually, Joseph became the 2nd most powerful man in Egypt. Was it because of God? Certainly. However, I believe that if Joseph had not done his job, the outcome of this story would have been very different.

pharaohs-dream-cowsIn Genesis 41, Joseph is shown the meaning of a dream that Pharaoh had. There would be 7 years of agricultural overproduction followed by 7 years of famine. With this knowledge and the authority to do something about it, what did Joseph do? Some of us, if we were put in the same situation, would pray and ask God to provide for us without realizing that He already had. God is the one who gave Joseph the knowledge about the famine and put him in a position with the authority to act. Joseph didn’t sit around and wait for God to do something that God was expecting Joseph to do. God did His part. Now it was Joseph’s time to do his part. Joseph mobilized the entire country and saved part of the overage in agriculture. Then when the famine came, Egypt not only had enough food to provide for its own people, but people from all over the region came to get food. In the end, God’s plan was accomplished. Joseph was reunited with his family and not only Egypt, but people from all over the region, including the future nation of Israel, survived. Who gets the credit for this? God. Who did the work? Joseph.

There is also the story of Esther. Esther was a jewish girl who happened to be chosen to be the queen of Persia even though she was not Persian. During her time as queen, it came to her attention through her uncle Mordecai that there was a plot to kill all of the Jews. That would have meant that Esther and her family as well as thousands of Jews would have been killed. Did Esther pray that God would intervene and stop the plot? No. Mordecai told her “Who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?” In other words, God may have placed you in a position to be able to do something about this. Did they seek God’s help? They certainly did. They fasted and prayed for three days asking for God’s favor and wisdom for Esther. God placed Esther in a position to do something. Esther recognized that God had placed her there in order to do something. She didn’t wait for God to do something. She went before the king, even though it could have meant her death just to approach him without being called first. She stopped the slaughter of the Jews and the man who came up with the plot was killed instead.

Too often we look for a miracle because we don’t want to do the work. I like what a well-known speaker said recently. “Miracles don’t produce maturity”. Often, the miracle is that we are in a position to handle the situation in the first place. Consider Joseph again. He was sold as a slave and yet became the 2nd most powerful man in Egypt. A miracle? I think so. Esther was a Jew who was chosen to be the queen of a foreign nation. The miracle was that she was even considered for the position, much less that she was chosen. I believe that sometimes, we rely on God for things that He expects us to do. We pray over the kind of breakfast cereal God wants us to eat that morning. We pray and ask God to make us a great musician without spending time practicing. We ask God to handle that situation at work that He has placed us in a position to handle. I don’t want to give the impression that God is distant and that we don’t need to rely on Him even for everyday things sometimes. But sometimes what we need is wisdom to handle the situation, not God’s intervention to handle it for us.

Where has God placed you? You may be a Joseph who has been put in a position of power and leadership in spite of yourself and your situation. You may be like Esther, who recognized that she had been placed in a position of authority just so she could affect the lives of those around her. What is God expecting you to do?